teaching..

I would like to share my little opinion here about teaching.

For the past 21 years of my life, I have seen many types of teaching being carried out by all sorts of people.

Through my own experiences and through observation on other people.

Different individual has different learning capabilities.

Some are fast learners. Some need some "pushing". 

Some need repetition and reminder. Some need reward to achieve higher.

Different techniques will work differently on different individual.

Fast learners usually pick up things faster than others. 

All they need is just one teach and there they grab hold of everything. 

People who needs "pushing" and rewards to learn are usually lazy learners. 

This type of people are usually smart but just lazy to work hard.

When there is someone pushing them and offering them reward, they can become real good and get things done fast.

Individuals who need repetition and reminder are usually slow learners. 

Most of them have the heart to learn but they just don't grab things as fast as others do. 

There are also people with lower self-esteem. 

This group of people are also most often being scolded and look down by colleagues and superiors.

But I strongly believe scolding and being "stepped" by superior is not the right approach.

What will the person learn through scoldings and negative comments? 

Will it struck their mind that "oh..I should have done this."

All that will happen is just breaking off their confidence into pieces.

Making them more depressed and feel useless.

If that "oh..I should have done this." statement appears automatically in their mind, they would not have done that mistake and let others scold them.

Who likes to be scolded in this world?

Everyone deserve a chance of learning in a conducive environment. 

Learning does not take place when someone is being scolded. 

All that will entered their brain is just all the bad words being used to scold them, thinking how bad they have done and what went wrong. 

Yes. Some people don't even know why they are being scolded. 

Because they are too emotionally disturbed and depressed that they did something wrong and make others unhappy. 

So, does learning took place? No, of cause. 

What if someone do mistakes or error? We as human being are not perfect. No one is perfect indeed. So what if you are older, more working experiences and higher in rank? Definitely there are somethings that you won't know. Everyone is learning. Everyday is a learning process. Learning how to be a good tutor or superior is also part of life. Everyone is equal in every way. There are something you are good in and some horribly bad. Accept others for who they are as how others accept you for who you are.

There are different ways to look at things.

I learned something new in customer service relation "class". 

90-10 principle. 

It means 10% of life is what happens to you and you have no control to it

and 90% of life is decided by how you react. 

Eg. Imagine you are having breakfast in the morning and out of a sudden your kid accidentally spilled coffee on your shirt. (Coffee spilling is part of 10% in life that cannot be controlled by you.) 

At that moment, you scolded your kid for spilling the coffee and blaming your spouse for putting the cup of coffee near the edge of the table. 

Your kid cried and you have a little argument with your spouse. 

You ran upstairs to change into a new shirt. When you came down, you realized your daughter missed the bus because she was crying and did not finish her breakfast. 

You have to send her to school. You drove 100km/hour to reach her school but stopped by a police traffic for speed driving and fined. 

You are late for work and only realized that you forgot your document bag. You have a hard day at work.

When everything is done, all you want is comfort at home. 

But when you reached home, you find that your spouse and daughter not talking to you for what you have done in the morning. 

All these can be changed if you have changed how you react to the situation. 

If you have taken the 'coffee spilled' incident more calmly, your daughter will not have missed her bus, your spouse would not have arguments with you and definitely you will not be fined and late to work or even forget your document bag. 

Things might turn out way better. 

Life is how you decide it to be.

To all future tutors and soon-to-be promoted working people out there,

Please think twice before doing anything. 

Your decisions and actions matters a lot to your followers.

You can create a better working environment, better relationships and better life experiences when you give others a chance.

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I am grateful to have friends and family who are very supportive to me.

I have nothing much to ask for.

Thank you God for all your guidance.

I will be better. =)

♥